Does it feel like you’re in a constant battle with your kids? Are you dealing with intense meltdowns and feeling bad about how you react?
Maybe you lose it and yell… and that makes it even worse. Or you keep your cool, but underneath it all you can feel the simmering resentment and irritation.
“I wish they’d just listen.”
That’s the number one frustration I hear from parents when they talk about their kids.
Does this sound like you?
You find yourself repeating the same thing over and over, and before you know it, you’re in a power struggle.
Sometimes, you just give in…. then instantly feel bad about not sticking to your rules.
Other times, you stand your ground, no matter how intense the battle gets. Then you end up yelling or worse, and feeling guilty about what you said or did.
Neither outcome feels right, and it’s defeating. It can make you doubt your ability as a parent. You know, that nagging voice that tells you you’re not good enough?
An especially difficult situation can be parenting a child who has extreme or even violent meltdowns. Maybe you’ve been told your child has ADHD or ODD or a mood or behavior disorder – or you might be wondering if the behavior fits one of these disorders.
If you’ve tried everything and nothing consistently works, you’re not alone. Many parents are feeling frustrated, exhausted and powerless.
A difficult situation with your kids can drain your energy like nothing else. It’s exhausting not knowing how to change it.
Parenting is crazy hard and it’s messy. It’s the most difficult and chaotic thing you’ll ever do. It’s filled with conflicts and challenges you never thought you’d have to deal with.
If you’re like most moms, you put a lot of pressure on yourself to do it right. You might fear that you’re going to damage your child if you don’t get it perfectly right. That your child will become “that teen” that gets into dangerous behaviors, or will grow up with all kinds of issues, and it will be all your fault.
That's an awful lot of pressure, and something has to give.
Unfortunately, parenting will not get easier when they’re teens unless you create some changes now.
Is There an Easier Way to Parent?
Yes, there is.
I’m going to share with you a very powerful approach that helps every parent who does the work.
- You don't have to yell at them.
- You don't have to argue with them.
- You don't have to threaten them.
- You don't have to make them feel bad to get them to do what you want them to do.
And I’m not talking about passive or permissive parenting, where your kids do whatever they want.
You want your children to be who they are and experience the joy and freedom of childhood… AND you want them to be respectful of others and of the limits and rules. You want them to be empowered and you also want them to do what’s expected without having to ask a dozen times.
Yes, this combination of self-determination and mutual respect IS possible. And I can show you how to achieve it for your family.
Schedule a FREE phone call with me and together, we’ll create a plan that works for you and your family.
You Can Transform Your Parenting Experience
Imagine how you'd feel if you had a completely different parenting experience…
Your home has a relaxed, peaceful and fun atmosphere, without backtalk, tantrums or power struggles. There is respect and cooperation between you and your kids. They know the agreed-upon limits and what is expected of them and although sometimes they might need to be reminded, they follow through and do what is asked without argument or debate.
If there are siblings, they look out for each other and when conflicts arise, they work it out. You feel a sense of calm and confidence in relating to your kids. They trust you and will confide in you when difficult situations arise in school or with friends.
You have more time for yourself and you have more energy to do fun things with your kids. And you’re actually really enjoying them!
Now imagine if you could say this about your children as they grow up…
- They have a strong sense of who they are and fully believe in themselves.
- They know they are loved and valued and don't look outside of themselves for approval.
- They are empowered, resilient and self-motivated.
- They are emotionally secure, and they know how to deal with disappointment.
- They are independent and confident in managing their lives.
- They like to hang out with you, and you have a life-long healthy, positive relationship.
- They are free from addictions and feel secure to say no in unsafe situations.
- They are focused and fulfilled in work and healthy relationships.
Is this too good to be true?
Not at all.
The great news is that the approach I’m about to share with you works for everyone who fully commits to doing the work, regardless of your unique situation. Because when you get to the place of establishing and maintaining a peaceful connected relationship with your child, everything changes.
You can get there even if you’re in one or more of these situations:
- You keep losing your patience and feel completely out of control
- Your child constantly disrespects you and there are a lot of hurt feelings
- Your child is extremely sensitive
- Your child is extremely demanding
- Your child is truly out of control
- You feel hopeless that you'll ever have a great relationship with your child
- You feel like you've run out of options
All you need is a path out of your current struggles, towards greater understanding and a deeper relationship with your child.
I can help you to accomplish that, by guiding and supporting you in resolving your family’s challenges.
Schedule a FREE phone call with me and together, we’ll create a plan that works for you and your family.
From Struggling Mom to Expert Parenting Coach
I’m Jane Sheppard, Certified Parenting Coach and Functional Medicine Certified Health Coach. I can help you because I've been where you are and found the path to change.
Like many of us, I had a dysfunctional childhood and grew up believing that I was inadequate, unlovable and not valued. As a teen I was self-destructive and made a lot of unhealthy choices. I began my healing journey in my late 20’s, with therapy and many other healing modalities.
I had to carve out a path to calm, connected parenting through some big challenges with my daughter. Through my personal struggles and my journey of re-parenting myself, I gained a unique and deeper understanding of emotional struggles in families.
When I gave birth to my daughter at age 36, I vowed to be the best parent I could be. I had done enough of my own healing to be what was considered a "good parent". I always believed in my daughter and she grew up knowing she is valued and loved.
But it was difficult for both of us because of my own triggers and reactions to her strong behavior.
I raised my daughter completely on my own under stressful circumstances. I was a single mom with no financial help and no family available. I had intense insomnia, chronic health issues, and I was stressed, worried and tired much of the time.
It was a huge challenge -- so overwhelming that I wasn't sure I could handle it and I made a ton of mistakes.
It’s fascinating how we can feel like we “have it all together” until we have children. Parenting can bring up everything within us that needs to be healed.
My daughter’s strong will and intense emotional outbursts brought up my feelings of inadequacy. She was a powerful force and pushed all my buttons. She was and always will be my greatest teacher. But her strong feelings scared me, since I was not able to express these feelings when I was a child. (growing up, I was hit or yelled at if I cried or showed anger.)
There were times when I blew up and yelled at my daughter since I didn’t know how to deal with my own feelings. I always did my best to repair it, though, and managed to keep our loving connection.
During those years I was constantly striving to understand myself and my own triggers while trying to create trust and emotional safety for my daughter. Through extensive study and deep personal healing I learned how to stay calm and be in empathy with her, and how to turn our power struggles around.
My daughter is now 25 and off on her own at graduate school. She is independent, confident, empowered, with a strong sense of who she is. We have a loving relationship and I am blown away by the amazing woman she has become.
With all of these experiences fueling my passion, I became specifically trained and found my true calling as a Certified Parenting Coach, helping parents to replace harmful habits and patterns with a new, more peaceful approach to parenting.
With my extensive background in holistic medicine and children's health issues, I became a Functional Medicine Certified Health Coach and a National Board Certified Health and Wellness coach to help families dealing with complex chronic illness and behavior and mood disorders in their children.
And now, I'd like to help YOU to heal the difficult challenges and build the kind of relationship you want to have with your children -- to save your family from conflict and pain.
My only regret, as I look back at my parenting in the early years, is that I had to figure it out all alone.
I needed someone to support me through all the difficulties.
I needed a highly trained, compassionate coach to help me know what to do when I got triggered.
I needed someone to help me unpack and understand those intense feelings.
I needed someone to help me gain clarity on my values, my boundaries and to teach me how to set healthy limits without getting all the pushback and rebellion.
I needed to know how to navigate the emotional rollercoaster of parenting a strong child.
I needed someone to remind me how important it was to take care of myself, so that I could show up as the mom I wanted to be.
I needed someone to guide me into the conversations that really mattered with my daughter, to coach me in how to gain her cooperation while keeping her powerful, determined spirit intact.
I needed someone to help me know when it was time to let go of my agenda and control so I could more fully understand who my daughter really is.
I needed the education and actual tools. I didn’t have that, so I muddled through it.
With what I know now, I realize I could have been a better parent and I could have had a much more enjoyable time parenting if only I'd had the support and guidance I really needed.
I could have made it so much easier on myself, but back then there were no parent coaches – at least not that I knew of.
Parenting is the most difficult and important work on the planet. One thing that I am absolutely positive about is that ALL moms need a little help sometimes. Most moms I coach don’t have the sort of background I had, and some have had worse childhoods. And none of that matters.
There are many different degrees of parenting dysfunction that we were raised with that affects our parenting now. Everyone has limiting beliefs that trigger strong emotions in difficult situations. And whether you realize it or not, it affects your children.
I believe it’s tragic for a child to grow up not feeling absolutely positive about their value. I want every child to be seen, heard and understood by the people who they love the most. To grow up truly loving themselves and able to be present, loving and emotionally secure in all their relationships.
So I decided to take my three decades of research, education, experience, insights, healing and personal growth, and combine that with topnotch parenting and coaching training to help other moms who are having a difficult time.
I want you to have what I never had. I want you to thrive in parenting, so I turned all of this into an individual private coaching program.
Calm Connected Parenting Program
The Calm Connected Parenting Program empowers you to be a confident parent and change what’s not working.
You will shift the dynamics happening with your kids so that they actually want to listen and cooperate. They will embrace the family values because it feels good to them to do so.
Inside the Calm Connected Parenting Program, you will learn how to recognize when you are headed into a power struggle with your child and you will be able to stop it dead in its tracks before it ever begins. And you will know how to diffuse and end a power struggle once you find yourself in one.
You will be able to know when your child is headed into a high-stress meltdown and you will know exactly what to do when this happens.
You will learn how to use my 4 step system of connection to guide you through your child’s biggest upsets and tantrums in a specific way that works for your unique child.
You will learn how to detect if your child has underlying physiological imbalances that might be affecting his or her intense behavior, and you will finally understand what to do about it.
You will have a different relationship to stress and will begin to have an ongoing sense of well-being within yourself and experience a more fun and light-hearted way of being with your kids.
It’s surprising how much a home can change in just 12 weeks...
You will personally experience an entire process of transformation that allows you to:
- Create a deep loving connection between you and your children
- Maintain mutual respect and cooperation in your family
- Have healthy communication with your children
- Prevent power struggles and frequent intense meltdowns
- Stop being reactive and triggered by your child's behavior
- Resolve your triggers so you can be a more effective, loving parent
- Help your children to regulate their emotions and consistently manage their stress
- Manage your stress and shift your uncomfortable emotional pat
Schedule a FREE phone call with me and together, we’ll create a plan that works for you and your family.
How the Calm Connected Parenting Program Works
The Calm Connected Parenting Program is a 12-week, personalized one-to-one coaching program accompanied by an online training course. This combination of individual coaching with online learning will teach you what you need to know to be an effective parent of children aged 3 to 18 years, and support you in making it work for your unique family.
We'll meet via phone for your private coaching sessions, and you can download the training videos, audios and written materials to your computer, phone or tablet to learn at your convenience.
Fully personalized, one-on-one coaching is what’s necessary to fully incorporate this valuable knowledge and insight into your everyday life so you will interact effectively and peacefully (consistently) with your children.
That's why in this program, you’ll have a private coaching session with me each week for 12 weeks.
During our sessions, I will help you incorporate the tools and solutions into your parenting to make them work best for you and your family. I will support you in changing what is isn’t working and guide you in a constructive approach to permanently create the positive interaction you want with your children.
I hold confidentiality sacred and I listen without judgement. I share parenting tools and wisdom with compassion and understanding for your unique situation. With genuine caring and unconditional love, I offer clarity, guidance and support that will help you grow into your best version of yourself. I can be the mother you always wished you had.
An empathic listener, I have the ability to hear what's spoken (and not spoken) between the lines. With me as your parenting coach, you will be able to understand your challenges in a different light. You will feel deeply encouraged and confident in creating the positive experience you've always wanted with your kids.
I will be your primary guide, teacher, and cheerleader over the course of our 12-week journey. You’ll have direct access to me via email in between our phone sessions. I’ll be there for you with loving support, inspiration, creative solutions, fresh perspectives, resources…and frankly, everything I’ve got.
There are no words to describe the loving connection that you begin to have with your children after only a few weeks. My clients feel a deep sense of peace and confidence, as the friction in their home begins to turn around.
When you are emotionally equipped to deal with the upsets, you will be able to effectively assist your children with their strong feelings without anger or harm to your child and your relationship.
When you set boundaries and limits in a way that is respectful to your child’s growth and well-being, then everyone wins. You’ll be amazed at how your child will respond to the rules and respect your requests.
It seems like magic.
But it’s not. You have to do the work to get to this point. It’s an ongoing, everyday practice and no one is perfect at it.
And here’s the beautiful part - There are no truly horrible moments in parenting because you can always repair them. Even when you go off into a yelling rampage (and we all do), you can go back and clean it up. When you do this effectively, the level of intimacy and authentic exploration that you can get to with your child is magical. It shifts everything.
And then they feel safe. They learn by your example how to calm themselves and how to repair future relationships. The more moments like this, the more safety and connection is built. I’ll show you how to do this.
When you take the time to do this work, your whole life will change for the better. The transformation from frustration and exhaustion to ease and calm is profound. All of your relationships will improve, and you can get on with your life feeling more empowered, relaxed, and happy.
In just 12 weeks, you will be able to:
- Break free of unconscious, limiting, and stressful parenting patterns
- Explore your triggers and reactions to your child's behavior
- Be responsive rather than reactive
- Create an instant connection with your child even during his or her worst tantrums
- Establish trust with your child so that you come to a new and improved relationship
- Learn the brain science behind your child's behaviors
- Identify your deepest values - and how to align your children with them
- Know how to set clearly defined expectations that stand the test of time
- Learn how to set limits peacefully and gain cooperation without resorting to punishments
- Know how to stop your kids from being rude and saying disrespectful things to you
- Build your child's self-esteem and self-confidence in a healthy and balanced way
- Integrate a new language of feelings and needs to create empowered conversations with your
- Understand why punishments and rewards can work short-term but harm your relationship and undermine your effectiveness in parenting.
- Communicate with your children so that they will listen to you and naturally want to cooperate with you
- Be a calm and centered parent who models healthy relationships for your child
- Help your child to grow up with lasting self-motivation and self-confidence
- Come to a deeper place of understanding your kids and yourself
- Know how to repair your relationship if it is broken and re-bond and connect when things get out of control
- Get help with your child's anxiety, depression, or other mood disorder
- Get help managing your child's ADHD
- Learn how to deal with your anger - and your child's
- Experience forgiveness for yourself and your child
- Learn self-care and mind/body practices that easily fit into your life
- Learn how to sleep better and even heal persistent sleep issues
- Infuse more fun and creativity into your relationship with your kids
- Feel fulfilled, energized and empowered with your partner and your entire family.
Why Choose Me as Your Coach?
I have been teaching parents about holistic health and well-being for children for 25 years. I am trained and experienced in mind-body medicine, positive psychology, and peaceful, positive, connection parenting.
I blend my knowledge, expertise, intuition, wisdom, and insight with effective tools and education to help you move through your most difficult challenges with your children.
For over 30 years, I’ve been studying why our bodies and minds work the way they do and how to create change. I help people connect with the intrinsic motivation they need to actually make and sustain the changes needed for transformation. I deeply listen to my clients and provide individualized support, education, and resources that will reduce overwhelm and stress.
In addition to being a Certified Parenting Coach, I am a Functional Medicine Certified Health Coach and an Epidemic Answers Health Coach. I am a National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach. I can guide you understanding and dealing with potential underlying physical issues related to serious behavior issues, anxiety, depression, ADHD, allergies and other chronic health issues in your family. I can help you get your child on the road to recovery with holistic, integrative medicine.
What’s Your First Step?
The first step is to schedule a private call with me to talk about your specific challenges. I provide a judgement-free, confidential space for you to talk about what’s happening and determine how I can help you.
Take 45 minutes for yourself and talk with me. It doesn’t cost anything, and it could change everything.
There are limited spots available because I put my full heart and soul into every client, so schedule your call now. Spaces will be filled soon.
Here’s what to expect when you schedule your FREE phone call…
- I’m here to listen to you with full attention in a judgement-free, completely confidential space.
- We'll dive deep into the specific struggles that exist in your family right now.
- I will help you discover the underlying issues in your unique situation.
- Together we will create a vision of what's possible with your children.
Because, in your heart of hearts, you dream of a better relationship with your kids. You’re tired of the anxiety, confusion, and overwhelm. You’re ready for relief, clarity, and renewed confidence. You are ready to create deeply connected and compassionate relationships with your children that will last a lifetime.
Welcome to the right time, and the perfect path to transformation.
Certifed Parent Coach
Functional Medicine Certified Health Coach
National Board Certified Health & Wellness Coach